Can I tell you something. Got to tell you one thing. If you expect the freedom that you say is yours prove that you deserve it. Help us to preserve it or being free will just be words and nothing more.
Kansas, 1974

Wednesday, July 06, 2016

Not Alone

This really seemed to hit a nerve for people when I shared it on Facebook today, “20 Diversion Tactics Highly Manipulative Narcissists, Sociopaths and Psychopaths Use to Silence You”. It seems quite a few of us have crossed paths with highly manipulative self-centered people in the flesh. People who try to control us, make us over as they see us, distort our sense of self-worth, lay waste to our character, and leave us questioning our sanity. Some of us have been broken by the slow seeping poisoning of our lives by these people. Some of us have been broken and made whole again. Some of us are still a work in progress. Some of us are just beginning to realize the truth of what we have been living with.

Wherever you are in the process you are clearly not alone.

Friday, November 13, 2015

Wisdom and Innocence

Tonight, Friday, November 13, 2105, there is terror in Paris. At home we are at heightened alert lest the same terror seize us unawares. At our colleges and universities mobs have been gathering demanding conformity to their will and their ways. We have watched as we burned our own cities. These are just a few of the more eye catching woes that beset us. What is a Christian to do in the midst of this kind of chaos?

Matthew 10:16
16 “Behold, I am sending you out as sheep in the midst of wolves, so be wise as serpents and innocent as doves.”
Wisdom, shrewdness or prudence, and innocence, an openness to what happens in life, both require constant vigilance to cultivate and protect in the right balance. Both are required to see clearly to the heart of the challenges that we face. Lean too much on one or the other and you leave yourself open to being easily deceived.

Philippians 4:4-8
4 Rejoice in the Lord always; again I will say, rejoice. 5 Let your reasonableness be known to everyone. The Lord is at hand; 6 do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. 7 And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.8 Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.
There’s a lot of foolishness being served up as truth coming from all quarters. We need to be careful about what we take in and what we leave on the table. Giving thanks, dwelling on those things truly worthy of praise, clears the mind of the garbage that can cloud our vision, befuddle us, and rob us of wisdom and innocence

Luke 10:2
2 And he said to them, “The harvest is plentiful, but the laborers are few. Therefore pray earnestly to the Lord of the harvest to send out laborers into his harvest.
There are so many lost and hurting souls practically in our laps! Some of those hurting souls are our own brothers and sisters in Christ. Reach out to them and pour out the love of God into their lives. This isn’t easy work and it won’t always be appreciated or wanted but it needs doing.

Galatians 5:22-23
22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law.

With unrelenting focus live lives rich with the fruit of the Holy Spirit. The law of the land will be whatever it may be. Politicians will come and go. Laws will change for better or for worse. But this, this is about how to be not merely what to do or not to do.

Thursday, June 18, 2015


Before we get too far along in digesting what happened in Charleston, SC last night I want to take the time to remind my fellow Christians, and the rest of the world of a few things. We are reminded in 2 Chronicles 7:14,

“If my people who are called by my name humble themselves, and pray and seek my face and turn from their wicked ways, then I will hear from heaven and will forgive their sin and heal their land.”

This message was delivered to King Solomon of ancient Israel at the dedication of the first temple in Jerusalem. The scenario presented to Solomon in this verse occurred over and over again in the history of ancient Israel. The people drifted away from God, they had to seek him out again, and forgave them time and time again. It occurs over and over again in the lives of modern Christians. Brothers and sisters we need to pray. Why? Oh for lots of reasons. Here are just a few that came to mind as I read about the shooting in Charleston, SC.

Ephesians 6: 10-12
Finally, be strong in the Lord and in the strength of his might. Put on the whole armor of God, that you may be able to stand against the schemes of the devil. For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the cosmic powers over this present darkness, against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly places.

Brothers and sisters we are at war and the battles we fight will not be won with bombs or sophisticated arguments. The battles we fight will be won when we fall on our faces before God and cry out for forgiveness.

Ephesians 6: 13-18
“Therefore take up the whole armor of God, that you may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand firm. Stand therefore, having fastened on the belt of truth, and having put on the breastplate of righteousness, and, as shoes for your feet, having put on the readiness given by the gospel of peace. In all circumstances take up the shield of faith, with which you can extinguish all the flaming darts of the evil one; and take the helmet of salvation, and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God, praying at all times in the Spirit, with all prayer and supplication. To that end keep alert with all perseverance, making supplication for all the saints.”

Brothers and sisters we are in the midst of war. Is your battle armor ready? Are you wearing it? This morning I can’t help but think of the exiles returning from Babylon to rebuild the city of Jerusalem and the temple. They were ready to fight. They worked with the tools of their trade in one hand and their weapons in the other. Are you ready to fight? The enemy doesn’t care if you are ready are not. They are here and they are fighting hard. They fight with the desperation of the defeated. Are you going to fight like the victory has already been promised to you? Because it has.

Isaiah 54:17
“No weapon that is fashioned against you shall succeed, and you shall refute every tongue that rises against you in judgment. This is the heritage of the servants of the Lord and their vindication from me, declares the Lord.

Brothers and sisters pray. Don’t succumb to the temptation to respond to this the way the rest of the world would. Choose God’s way.

Phillippians 4:8
“Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.

The rest of the world, you us watch and remember these words,

Ephesians 3:20
“Now to him who is able to do far more abundantly than all that we ask or think, according to the power at work within us, to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, forever and ever. Amen.

Brothers and sisters you remember these words too as you pray.

Tuesday, July 22, 2014

Misleading "Inspire Her Mind" Ad

The first time I caught a glimpse of Verizon's "Inspire Her Mind" ad I thought to myself, good grief.


 If this ad is to believed fathers are participants in a conspiracy to drive their daughters away from science and into the stuff that the ad portrays as girly. I'm going to have to call shenanigans on that, both on the idea that girls are discouraged from pursuing the sciences and the portrayal of stereotypically girl oriented interests and styles of play are undesirable. My parents had no problems with my interest in science when I was growing up, so long as I did my chores, and didn't do anything to endanger myself, my siblings, or the structural integrity of our house. As a mother one of my greatest joys is sharing my interest in science with my sons and daughters, with the same limitations my parents set on me of course. (I have no desire to have the house burn down or have to rush anyone to the hospital, again.)

The fact of the matter is that women are either at or close to parity with men in the various sciences. Nearly half of all advanced degrees in the sciences are earned by women. So just who is supposedly discouraging girls from getting into science?

This video does a pretty good job critiquing the sketchy numbers and beliefs presented in the Verizon ad.


 Do yourself and your daughters a favor, don't believe everything you see on TV or the internet and teach your sons and daughters to be similarly skeptical.

Thursday, June 19, 2014

Thankful Thursday

Today I am thankful for/that:

  1. Faithful friends.
  2. Divine wisdom.
  3. God's grace.
  4. God's mercy.
  5. I know who I truly am.
What are you thankful for?

Thursday, June 05, 2014

Thankful Thursday

Today I am thakful for/that:

  1. "Mom I want to help!"
  2. Bird song.
  3. Sunshine.
  4. Flowers in bloom.
  5. Paychecks.
What are you thankful for?

Wednesday, June 04, 2014

Parenting Autism Update

Eleven days to go in the funding campaign. Here are some topics to be covered in Parenting Autism: prevalence rates and what they mean for the future; protecting parent and child mental health; dealing with problem behavior; the search for the causes of autism and what that means for the parent-child relationship; the idea of recovery from autism and its influence on the lives of autistic people.

If you've got any thoughts on these issues or have other issues that you think important to parenting autism please share.

Thursday, May 22, 2014

Thankful Thursday

Today I am thankful for/that:

  1. Fifteen years and counting with hubby.
  2. Sunshine! Did I mention I like sunshine?
  3. Big ideas.
  4. Freedom.
  5. Opportunity.
  6. The people who protect my freedom with their lives.
What are you thankful for?

Thursday, May 15, 2014

Thankful Thursday

Today I am thankful for/that:
  1. Winter is over!
  2. Spring is here!
  3. Sunshine.
  4. Green leaves on the trees.
  5. Flowers in bloom.
  6. Birds singing.
  7. "Come on lets go play outside!"
What are you thankful for?

Wednesday, May 14, 2014

Parenthood Still Marginalized

Ellen Galinsky wrote this about parenthood in the 1980s. Do you think it's still true today?
"The studies of life-span psychology, like those of adult development, have also minimized the place of parenthood. Parenthood, when stressed in adult development at all, as in Women of a Certain Age, by Lillian Rubin, and In Her Time, by Iris Sanguiliano, was more likely to be cast as something for women to be freed from in order to search for and find their own sense of identity."
 Galinsky writing about how parenthood was treated at the time she began working on her book The Six Stages of Parenthood.

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